On what it means to be human,as per me.

Are you a stick?
Are you a weapon?
Are you a carpet?
Are you a ATM?

Maybe you are unaware of your true purpose in life.
But before you find answers to who you are or who you are meant to be,you can take a bit of time to see to who you simply absolutely aren't?

Why,you ask.Well,here is why.

When I show poor impulse control in falling for anything or accepting or internalizing anything..or even worse,act on that ill-controlled impulse in a poorly thought through action-arc..I need to ask myself: Am I really a stick? Or a weapon ?

Because the person who sees me as one is obviously someone with a certain level of control over me.

He/she sees me as a person who may be counted upon to act as per a certain preprogrammed reflex.I would have given him/her an impression to that effect at some point in the course of our journey together.Or maybe he/she just needs me to be that at that point.

So will I be letting them down?Will I be guilty,or worse,will my worst fears about them leaving me come true?

Guilt and fear belong in the dustbin of our lives,so let us trash them ab-initio. No sense carrying on with baggage,is there? :)

So,if not that,what are we?

Maybe our roles,our conditioning lead us to believe we are to have this huge burden of being ever so serious and responsible.Or maybe we feel the need to let the people in our lives take a dump all over us on a regular basis.We must hold on to them in their low times,we feel.After all,how can we deserve their best if we cannot be there for them at their worst..and so on..we tell ourselves.
So,we are carpets.Doormats.

Wrong.But I am getting ahead of myself.

And finally the real holy grail of relationships: Money.
Yes,you heard me right.
Its NOT love,intimacy,warmth,trust,mutual respect,communication,passion and many many more such well documented factors that create,sustain,perpetuate and nurture a relationship.

Its about the money,honey.

Someone wise once said: Money isn't important,but make sure you have plenty of it before spouting such drivel..nonsense..trip..what have you..
Because sooner or later,you are asked to,quite literally,put your money where your mouth is.
Everything else is important,of course.
But it really starts with the bucks.. :)

So,you must be an ATM..

After all,the fact that you bring home food on the table being so important must surely mean just that.
To watch your child light up with happiness when you get him/her what they so dearly want? To make your wife feel valued and thought of? To make your parents feel a little less burdened by responsibility for a rare and fleeting passing moment in life? To see a friend through a rather tight phase? And so on..?
The jury is out on that one..but I am  pretty sure you are NOT an ATM.The thought itself is scary.

So we are not these four things.
Or their many versions or variants.

I AM sure of one though.
I am no longer comfortable of being a stick or a weapon.
I am a thinking human.
I need my mind to be used.